I’m excited to introduce you to my
next Gentlewoman, Priscilla Gonzalez. I
met Priscilla earlier this year at my church’s women’s group, Flavour
Sisterhood. A month or two ago, we
became friends on Facebook and I found out that Priscilla had lost her oldest
son, Fabian in a car accident last year.
Knowing that she had lost a son really shocked me because if you know
Priscilla you will know that this woman wears a constant smile on her face. She is devoted to church and you can see her
and her family there every Sunday. She
shows no sign of defeat; in fact, she exudes this strength in her presence. Priscilla exemplifies the true meaning of
being a Christian in my eyes. Her faith
cannot be shaken. I am so proud to call
her a friend and I am honored to call her a sister.
Just this week I received a daily
devotional from Greg Laurie. The subject
line read, “Trusting in the Dark Times”.
After I read the email, I knew this would be a great intro to
Priscilla’s GW blog post. I loved it so
much I wanted to share with you all.
God
wants us to experience joy as believers—not a fickle happiness that depends on
circumstances or changes with the wind direction, but a joy that remains in
spite of what may be taking place around you.
Anyone can be relatively happy when things are going well. But when you face adversity or sickness or hardship and then rejoice, you show that something supernatural has occurred in your life. In fact, you show yourself to be a real Christian. This is a unique trait of believers—that we can rejoice when things go wrong.
How do we do it? We find the key in Philippians 4:4: "Rejoice in the Lord always. Again I will say, rejoice!" Paul didn't say to rejoice in circumstances. Rather, he said to rejoice in the Lord. In other words, God is still on the throne. You're still going to heaven. You're still forgiven. God still has a plan for your life; He has not abandoned you. We need to take joy in the Lord always. That is the key. I recognize that in spite of what I may be going through right now, His plans for me are still good. And He will never leave or forsake me.
Anyone can be relatively happy when things are going well. But when you face adversity or sickness or hardship and then rejoice, you show that something supernatural has occurred in your life. In fact, you show yourself to be a real Christian. This is a unique trait of believers—that we can rejoice when things go wrong.
How do we do it? We find the key in Philippians 4:4: "Rejoice in the Lord always. Again I will say, rejoice!" Paul didn't say to rejoice in circumstances. Rather, he said to rejoice in the Lord. In other words, God is still on the throne. You're still going to heaven. You're still forgiven. God still has a plan for your life; He has not abandoned you. We need to take joy in the Lord always. That is the key. I recognize that in spite of what I may be going through right now, His plans for me are still good. And He will never leave or forsake me.
Priscilla Gonzalez |
For those people who
don’t you, can you tell me a little bit about yourself?
I’m
Priscilla Gonzalez, married with three children. My husband is my high school sweetheart and our
children are our greatest accomplishment. We have a son that recently passed
from this life to be with our Savior.
Losing a child has to
be one of the hardest difficulties to endure. I cannot even begin to fathom the
pain, loss, and never ending void that comes along with it. Can you tell my readers what exactly happened
on that fateful Friday night in 2013?
Fabian
met his maker in April 2013 and our lives have not been the same since. He was
speeding trying to meet his curfew and lost control of the vehicle.
When I found out that
you were a mother who had lost her son, honestly, I was completely
shocked. You had been a part of my
Flavour bible study group and never once brought it up. You have always had this smile on your face
and never looked like a woman that was defeated. How were you able to stand, and continue to
stand with an invisible armor while still grieving the loss of your son?
I
take it day by day, sometimes minute by minute. God renews my strength each
day, it’s nothing that I’ve done or can do but it’s what He can do through me.
Christ has truly covered me with a blanket of peace, protection and hope.
Sometimes we don’t
realize what we have until it’s too late.
What advice do you have for all the parents out there who get caught up
in the struggle of raising and disciplining their kids versus enjoying and
cherishing their kids in the present moment?
I
would say that parents have to truly have a heart for raising their children. I
mean be intentional about being available to them. Being a good parent is hard
work especially when you add a full-time job, cooking, cleaning, and all the
other chores, it gets exhausting. But our children need us; they thrive on our
attention and approval. We have to keep in mind that they are a gift from God
and should be treated as such.
I truly believe that
all things work for good for those who believe.
Looking back on this past year, what has been the light in the darkness?
Involvement
in our church and love for others has been ignited within us. We have seen Fabian’s
friends attend church and worship with us. Our family fully grasps that life is
fragile and our days are numbered so we choose to not focus on the petty things
in life. The love I have for my husband is so deep and genuine. Of course I
would have rather those things come about a different way but I can accept that
all we have gone through and continue to go through is God’s perfect will for
our lives. I know that if we keep our
faith in Christ we will be reunited with Fabian again. I have hope.
What is the best
piece of advice you have ever received?
You
know sometimes advice is not spoken to you directly but indirectly through
someone’s actions. My mother has always prayed for her children. So I take that
unspoken advice and pray for my children without ceasing. I remember my mother
dropping me off at school and I could hear her praying for me under her breath.
I was a teenager with a son which tells you I was not the perfect daughter but
my mother didn’t care she kept on praying for me and I believe that made all
the difference in my life.
What are your dreams?
My
hope is to raise kingdom children and my dream is to be reunited with Fabian. I
long for the days when my family can be whole again.
Who inspires you and
why?
My
pastor Ed Young and his wife Lisa Young inspire me to have a thriving marriage
and to put my husband before my children (which is hard for me to do
sometimes). They also inspire me to serve because if I’m not serving I’m
swerving…my Fellowship Church family will get that ;)
Pastor
Tony Evans inspires me to raise my children with a purpose and to have a
kingdom agenda mind-set.
What do you think
women in our generation need to hear?
I
would like to see women make the most of their current situation. Lots of times
we blame others for things that have happened to us but when you have hope in
Jesus Christ you can lay all your burdens at his feet and he will carry the
load for you. Sit back, evaluate your situation and refocus on what truly
matters.
What are you most
proud of?
I’m
most proud of how our family came together to help raise Fabian. You know the
saying it takes a village to raise a child, well that’s true in this case. We
didn’t know what we were doing as teen parents but with our family’s help we
raised a respectful, ambitious, and intelligent young man. Now with those
skills that we learned we will raise our other children the same way.