In a world that has become
so focused on the outward appearance, it is so hard to maintain or live up the
new standard of beauty. There’s a lotion to battle winkles, a workout to cure
the flabby tummy, a lipstick that will plump your lips, and under garments to
tuck in that extra pound or two. We buy
everything that is advertised in hopes to look younger, prettier or skinnier
yet, we don’t focus on the true beauty that lasts forever which is in our heart.
At the beginning of the
year I turned 31 years young and I had told myself this was the year I was
going to strive to be a Proverbs 31 woman.
What is a Proverbs 31 woman you ask?
Honey, she is errrrythang! How we
vision Beyonce is nothing in comparison to what a Proverbs 31 woman is – it’s
on a holy nutha level. A Proverbs 31
woman is a woman of great faith. She is a virtuous woman who is a great mother, wife, and
servant. She is a steward of finances and she has a great work ethic. She is full of inner beauty that
only comes from Christ. She is not perfect
nor does she achieve to be. Instead she
lives a life with purpose, diligence, forgiveness and repentance.
I don’t know about you but
I’ve struggled being a girl in this world.
From a young age, I remember looking in the mirror and not liking myself. I was too skinny, too dark and too tall. Where I got this from who knows, but it was
my reality. It was engrained in my head that
all my physical attributes were far from beautiful and instead I was filled
with insecurities before I even entered puberty.
As I got older, some
insecurities fell off the map, but some stayed near and dear close enough to
ruin a great day. I allowed other people
to steal my confidence, by simply believing their comments about myself. What little confidence I had in myself was completely
wiped off from an ex-boyfriend. I
constantly felt inferior to the beauty of other girls. I was told many times that a man liked a
woman with meat on her bones. I was
reminded that I had no shape or curves.
These comments were not made by men, but by females – who were supposed
to be my friends. But I grew out of that
after a time of self-discovery. As I got
older, I began to accept myself more and more.
But then I had a baby and the weight piled on, the tummy turned mushy
and I was on a road of trying to regain some confidence. (Oh how we allow so much of this world to
affect our minds and our thoughts.) I
was so guilty of that. I had conformed
and allowed the false representation of beauty to be present in my life. While I may have said or thought different at
the time, it was true and I was trying my hardest to live up to that
standard. When you aim for perfection,
you get shot down real fast. I kept
chasing it and just found myself doing just that – chasing.
When I returned to my
first love, I found that accepting yourself in every way was going to be
something you could only find through Him.
Joel Osteen once said, “When you are feeling insecure or doubting
yourself in any area of your life – repeat out loud, I am fearfully and
wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.” How that
verse (Psalm 139:14) got me through my most insecure moments, I can’t even
explain. The moment I felt any kind of negative thought about myself, I would
repeat that out and I would instantaneously feel better.
The desires to conform to
the world have slowly been swept away from me.
However, I must admit, I am still human and I can still feel insecure,
not just physically, but in all areas of my life – as a wife, parent,
employee, friend, etc. But God
helps. He says, “Call to me and I will
answer you and tell you great and unsearchable things you do not know.” -
Jeremiah 33:3
If you are feeling down
whether it is with your weight, looks, confidence as a parent or wife, be
renewed by knowing that we are His masterpiece (Ephesians 2:10). Hold on to the hope of knowing that we are
made in his image (Genesis 1:27) and that God doesn’t look at the outward as
the world does, but instead, He looks at the heart. (1 Samuel 16:7)
God can help you with your
confidence. Reach out and talk to him. He will comfort you. (2 Corinthians 1:4)
Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the
renewing of your mind. Then you will be
able to test and approve what God’s will is – his good, pleasing and perfect
will. – Romans 12:2
Charm is deceptive, and
beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. – Proverbs
31:30