There’s
something about Monica. I can’t quite
put my finger on what exactly sets her apart from other women I know. Perhaps it’s that sweet soft voice that she
has, or maybe it’s that beautiful smile that lights up a room. Monica
carries a light within her and it shines bright!
Monica has
been one of my fellow encouragers. I can
lean on her for guidance, wisdom and prayer.
She is a woman of her word and when she says “I’m praying for you” I
know she really means it. Monica has
this inner peace that spreads like a wildfire.
She seems almost super human as I always see her smiling. I’ve never seen her down, upset or even heard
her raise her voice. I admire that about
her.
Today, I
would like to share her light and uplifting personality with you as I share her
story with you.
For those people
who don’t know you, can you share a little bit about yourself?
My name is
Monica Valdez. I am a first generation baby, born and raised in Texas and I
currently live in Dallas. I'm married to
a wonderful husband named Jesse and I am a proud mommy to our 2 beautiful boys,
Lyric & Liam. I have 3 gorgeous step-children, Speshal, Yishai and Bella,
who complete our family. I am also the owner of Monica Elizabeth Designs.
I’ve been through
so much with my recent job situation/wanting to start my own business and you
have been there through it all to assist me with support, motivation and even
creating my logo design for All Things Co.
Can you share with my readers how it came to be that you decided to
start your own business?
I was an
Art Director for a company in Dallas for 5 years, originally hired on as a
Graphic Designer. It was my first real experience working in this field after
leaving the Art Institute of Dallas where I majored in design. I absolutely
loved my job, loved my boss, loved the people I was working for and with but I
knew God had more in store for me. I could remain and stay comfortable with
where I was, or I could follow my heart's ultimate desires and move forward
with starting my own business.
There were
things that happened leading up to that day, but I remember driving to work
that morning, having my morning talk with the Lord when I heard and knew that
THAT was the day I needed to put in my 2 weeks’ notice. As I got to work, I
almost pulled out my chair when I felt God's little nudge. If I sat down, I'd
lose my nerve. When God speaks, we must listen!
I put in my
notice without a safety net and He has been with me ever since. It took about 6
months to get business up and going, but I started feeling the blessings from
obedience coming in right away.
You and I both have
a blended family - which honestly has become the norm for the average American
family. What are the struggles you face
when it comes to blending children from two marriages and how do you cope? Do you have any advice for those women
entering a blended family or those who are in a blended family and are facing
difficulty in creating a blended home?
I think the
most important thing to do when entering this type of family dynamic, is to
make sure you consider everyone involved. Never neglect the feelings of the
children, no matter the age. My husband was previously married and 3 beautiful
children came out of that marriage. I had no children myself and was young
enough to bond with them on a friendship level before anything else, but we did
have our struggles. I think the hardest thing was communication.
I can look
back and think of a million times I could have said something differently, or
responded differently. It's hard because the children want to know you are
committed before they can allow themselves to be and not seeing them everyday
can make that difficult. I got to a point many years ago where I said,
"This is the life God has chosen for me, this is the husband he has
blessed me with and his children are a bonus not an obligation." I
can honestly say that in any situation...GOD changes everything. I put Him in
the center and prayed for Him to open up my heart to loving the way HE intended
me to love all along. If God blesses you with the opportunity to be a
step-parent in a child’s life, do it with all of your heart…openly, honestly
and without reservation. Never be scared to love too much!
You and your
husband Jesse have such a strong bond that overflows with love. It is evident in the way he looks at you,
when he speaks about you and when you guys are together. Can you share your love story with my
readers?
Okay,
definitely blushing! Yes, I met Jesse ten years ago. He was the drummer of a
band and I was in college. I was a third wheel on a date with two good friends
when he approached me and won me over with his sweet words. I didn't give him
my number – instead I took his. I didn't reach out until two weeks later - but
he had been on my mind the whole time. He was genuine, not like anyone else I
had met. During our first conversation, he told me about his children and,
unlike any time before, I was totally okay with it. We talked about many things
but when he spoke about Christ, I knew I had met him for a reason.
Our first
date was at the State Fair and truthfully, that's where I fell in love. We were
walking, holding hands and he was singing to me there amongst all the noise,
all the people. Everything just drowned out; he could care less who was around.
Jesse has
always loved me with a genuine love. Despite our age difference, our
backgrounds, our past personal struggles, we came together at a time where we
both needed each other’s company. We were both starting over in our own ways
and God knew exactly what He was doing crossing our paths together!
There are lots of
struggles that come with being married.
Anyone that is married can attest to that I’m sure. In your opinion, what do you think makes a
marriage thrive?
I think
it's never allowing that first initial attraction to fade. What drew me in, in
the beginning, still draws me in today. My husband still flirts with me every
day. He still writes me these cute little love songs and tries hard to make me
blush. And I make sure to make him feel loved and appreciated for all he does
for our family. We don't just say "I love you", we live it out and
mean it. But the one thing that we have made sure to do is put Christ at the
center of our marriage. Our marriage hasn't always been easy so in the roughest
parts, HE carried us. That has made all the difference. ;)
What is your
favorite verse? What does this verse
mean to you?
John 16:33
“I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world
you will have tribulation (trials & sorrow). But take heart! I have
overcome the WORLD.” This continues to be one of my favorites because it is
Jesus speaking, giving encouragement, letting us know it's NOT going to be easy
but the battle has already been won. In Christ, you will find peace no matter
the circumstance. Be of good cheer, keep smiling and continue on because the
victory is ours.
What are your
dreams?
I have
many! But I think I mostly just want to help people any way I can. I pray all
the time for God to use me for His Glory. Whether through my church, my business
or everyday interactions, I hope to one
day be in a position to help and encourage women who have gone through similar
struggles, children who have lost a parent, or people looking for love in the
wrong places.
Who inspires you
and why?
My parents
are my biggest inspirations. My mom was
the sweetest, most lovable person who dedicated her life to raising me and my
siblings in a strong yet loving household. She was my absolute best friend and
where my spiritual commitment originates from. It was her prayers, when she
would stay up late at night waiting for me to come home, that saved me. My
mother passed away unexpectedly 4 years ago, but there isn't a day that her
words and actions don't inspire me to be a better woman, wife and mother.
My Father
is one of the hardest working men I know. His commitment to our family when we
were young didn't stop when we got older, it only grew stronger. He is an
amazing father, grandfather and father-in-law. He inspires me to work hard,
never give up living and when life knocks you down, "Talk to the man
upstairs!" My parents were married
for 30 years, their love and commitment to each other is inspiration in my own
marriage to never stop loving.
What do you think
women in our generation need to hear?
Be confident
in who you are because you were made beautiful in God's image. You were made
for a purpose, one greater than we could ever logically understand so don't
beat yourself up trying to find one. You have the ability to impact anyone and
everyone around you with something as simple as a smile, use it. And please
never neglect your own character as an asset. You are more than capable of
being the confident, compassionate, gentlewoman God intended you to be. Embrace
it and see yourself as the daughter of a King, because you are.
What are you most
proud of?
I am most
proud of how far I've come in my relationship with Christ. Apart from Him, I
can do nothing. I have traveled a long way from who and where I was spiritually
11 years ago. I was involved with the wrong people, the wrong "THEY"
and I was only headed down hill (literally). It took a near death experience
for me to wake up and make the decision to change my life. I've never been
happier or more grateful for the people I now have surrounding me. I wouldn't
trade my past for anything; it completely made me who I am today. God blessed
me through it and I now love my life because of it!
Her children stand and bless her. Her husband praises her: “There are many
virtuous and capable women in the world, but you surpass them all! – Proverbs 28-29
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